In order to achieve his goal faster, a person needs good motivation in the form of an example to follow. For each of us, a good example can be a person who is engaged or was engaged in a business that we really like. At the same time, he should already achieve significant success in it. In general, role models are very important. They help us become who we want to be. And in this article, I would like to talk about how to choose the right role model and who inspires me to become better.
What does it mean to imitate?
To imitate means to repeat, reproduce exactly someone's actions, take an example from someone.
A lot of people say that imitation of someone or something has a negative effect on the development of one's Self, i.e. instead of creating something new, you are trying to do the same thing. In part, I agree with this. You need to understand and capture the fine line between imitation and good motivation. You don't have to be someone, you have to be yourself. But to build positive traits, qualities, actions, processes, etc. into your life model. necessary for the development of the personality of any person. Therefore, in my understanding, imitation is more of a motivation than "stupid copying".
The ability to do something yourself begins with imitation.
Dragon Zakura
How to choose a role model
Decide who you want to be, what to do and what lifestyle to lead
This is the most important point. Do you want to lead a certain lifestyle? Do you want to achieve something in a certain area that you like? Do you want to change yourself, develop a strong personality? Then think and write down your aspirations and qualities that will help you achieve all this. But the second step is to choose a role model who has already achieved something or has these necessary qualities.
Choose an example from your social circle or among celebrities
First you need to pay attention to your surroundings. First of all, the parents. Since in childhood, the child first takes an example from his parents. And growing up, they can remain the main role models. I can say that my mother is a role model for me. Looking at her, at her actions, I understood a lot of things, realized and best habits built into your life. If the parents have not been able to become an example, then in youth we are more guided by our friends, with whom we constantly communicate. I remember as a child, one of my friends played the guitar well. I also really wanted to learn how to play this instrument. And in some moments I really wanted to imitate him, to be the same, to play the same way. As a result, I learned to play the guitar by myself! But when we grow up and already acquire some kind of profession, here we look more at celebrities in a particular field of activity. As a rule, celebrities and I cannot be around so that they teach us something. Therefore, one has to study their biography, follow their actions in the media and draw conclusions based on personal observations.
Remember that people are not perfect
If you have already chosen a role model, then you do not need to completely copy it. This is a very big mistake. Understand that every person has positive and negative sides. Your task is to take all the best from imitation and build it into your life. It can be habits, actions, thoughts, ideas, and so on.
Learn all about the successes and failures of an idol
This is also a very important stage, since you can protect yourself in advance from failure in any business by learning about the failures of your role model. Success does not come immediately, it is a very long and thorny path. And almost everyone gets a lot of bumps before they succeed. This will save you from many failures and make your way faster and easier.
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Don't copy completely.
A role model should be used as a guide, not a way of behavior. Thus, you will preserve your individuality, and this is very important. To take an example from someone is good, but it is more important to be an individual. In pursuit of an example, it is important not to lose yourself. You should not just copy - you need to stand out and maybe someday you will also become an example to follow.
In three ways we learn wisdom: by reflection is the noblest way, by imitation is the easiest and the third, experienced, is the hardest.
Confucius
My role models
At first I had the idea to write an article about motivation, and then I thought, who motivates me to go somewhere, to achieve success there? Who are these people? And then I realized that they not only motivate me, but are my role models. I sat, thought, analyzed and assembled my trinity. Here they are…
Robert Kiyosaki. Finance and Education
Being engaged in self-development, I came across the book ““. She changed my worldview in the field of finance. That's what I understand, to help people. To write such an instructive, simple, understandable book about education. Yes, dear friends. The book, in principle, is not about money, not about investments, it is about education. For me personally, education is very important. Firstly, I myself studied at school, technical school, institute and was in this “rotten” system, which taught me nothing. But I learned one, probably the most important lesson from so many years of sitting at a desk - you need to learn on your own, consciously, which I am doing now. Second, I studied pedagogical institute and his view on the construction of training was formed properly. Less theory, more practice, but we have the opposite.
Oleg Tinkov. Sports and Entrepreneurship
My acquaintance with this outstanding entrepreneur began with his book “I am like everyone else”. A book about life, the way, the formation of personality. Most importantly, he does not try to teach anyone, he simply shares the events of his life, from which you can learn a lot.
Again, I will touch on the topic of health for success. It was this person who influenced my decision to buy a bicycle for the next season. In his book, he writes that it was cycling that gave him an understanding of how to move in general in life. Yes, and Vladimir Dovgan also began his path to success through rowing. It is good that people do not just make money, but also show ways, methods to achieve their wealth.
Again, my sympathy for this man is not due to the fact that he is already a billionaire and is approaching the Forbse top. No. It motivates that a person is trying to leave something behind. These are books, these are his “Business Secrets”, which I constantly review. A person is not stuck in his "EGO", a person consciously tries to make this world a better place with his experience. And it deserves my respect.
Again, Oleg cannot be called a Businessman, because he creates his products not because he loves it, but simply wants money. Anyone who has read the book will understand what I mean. He had many niches and with each he squeezed the maximum. And this is called entrepreneurship, and he does it with capital letter. So is it worth asking? What do you want to be - an entrepreneur or a businessman. Do not confuse these words. Oleg Tinkov - good example for role models in business and sports. For which many thanks to him.
Timati. Creativity and Lifestyle
I often watch his GQ video. Fully charged... Cash always sticks to the intellect..)
... not the Timati who was a kid at the Star Factory, not the early Timati who sang about "pussies", but the one who is now in his 30s. On the example of Timati, one can trace the correct development of the personality. When you are not yet 20, you make yourself a superman, when you are over 20, then a boy from whom chicks are written, but by 30 - you are already a business owner and a husband. Here's how it should be right. So when you drive a typewriter, do you smoothly shift the box? So in life you need - smoothly.
Many people there say that Timati was given money by his parents. This is nonsense and rumors, a person achieved everything himself, this is a huge work. Give now to many a million simply squander. Being creative, being a business founder, being loved is a lot of work.
Again, he is trying to pass on his experience to the younger generation. He has video seminars “My Way to Success” on his YouTube channel, where he talks about his vision of life and the principle of achieving success. Yes, maybe they are repeated with many things that are written in books, but in principle the system works the same way. No one will invent a new bicycle. This is a strong desire to want something, the right goals, self-development, environment and, of course, actions.
Who is not even interested in Timati's work, I advise you to listen to his album 13. There are really deep, motivating songs that make you think. I really like Demon's song.
The new me opened its eyes.
The feeling of fatigue and fear is gone.
I don't sleep at all, I'm on my feet.
My whole life is like a blueprint.
I do routes and live by the system.
Probably some evil genius wrote this program!
Totalitarian over-plan, like a genocide of generations.
Yes! The struggle between good and evil is now alien to me!
Electric block, that's what I need.
Paving the way, my hammer rings.
Everything has changed because...
I am a robot! I have an outdated design.
I am a robot! And now for 200 years I've been rocking.
I'm swinging. I'm swinging. I'm swinging. I'm swinging.
I'm swinging. I'm swinging.
Timati looked into himself, at his fears, pumped his EGO with money and now he is on a different level, where he is no longer worried about money. He lives for his family, for the people who will be charged with his success. He understood how the system worked. He didn't hack it, he just started playing by its rules. Learn the rules, otherwise you will be fined.
What I would like to say in conclusion… In my life I want to realize the synthesis of education, entrepreneurship and creativity. The goal is to open my own school, learn and teach .. And I will go towards this ...
Conclusion
I encourage you to choose your own role models as well. It could be one person, it could be several. It is not important. It is necessary to make sure that these people kindle a light in you that you could give to other people through your work, through your ministry. My opinion is that there is nothing "dark" in imitation. This is just another one that will push you to do something bright, inspire new interesting ideas, thereby making your life brighter and more conscious.
People who are your role model should serve as your kind of coach-consultant. Before you take any step in your life along the path of your destiny, always ask yourself the question: “What would my role model do in this situation?”. And I am sure that the answer will come and it will bring new fruits of creation to this world.
Some people, despite their wealth and position, remember that they are no better than others and try to be humble, care for their neighbors, and do good deeds in imitation of the Lord.
About ten such people - worthy examples for each of us, especially for many powerful Russians, we would like to tell you today.
The deeds of these people amaze and inspire respect. Having achieved a lot in life, they did not become slaves of their wealth and position and are grateful to other people:
1. Bishop Longin (Heat)
This hierarch (photo in the header) proved with his life that the image of the bishop, replicated in the media, as a swaggering fat man in an expensive car, neglecting the flock entrusted to him by God, is not true.
While still a priest, the bishop rebuilt the Holy Ascension Monastery in the Chernivtsi region of Ukraine and, under him, founded a church boarding school for more than 1,000 orphans and disabled children, more than 400 of whom he adopted.
In addition to his pastoral duties for the revival of Orthodoxy in Ukraine, Vladyka Longin has been raising children taken into his care for many years.
AT last years from also actively opposed the beginning, and then the continuation of the Kyiv Nazi regime unleashed civil war in the South-East of Ukraine. And this despite regular threats against him from dissenters and neo-Nazis.
His life and activities are well described in the film “Forpost”, known to almost all Orthodox Christians of the CIS.
2. Vladislav Tetyukhin
Ural magnate engaged in titanium mining as a co-owner of a large metallurgical company.
At 80, he did not buy a villa in warm countries. Instead, Vladislav Tetyukhin sold all his shares and built a medical center for fellow countrymen in Nizhny Tagil with the proceeds of 3.3 billion rubles.
In the future, the billionaire plans to build a hotel, new houses for clinic employees with 350 apartments, a hostel for students, a transport block and a helipad.
Tetyukhin now holds the post of general director here and, at 82, comes to work strictly according to the schedule: by 9:00 in the morning, 6 days a week.
3. Swedish Princess Madeleine
The princess of the Swedish royal house does not exalt her position.
At royal receptions, Princess Madeleine appears in dresses for $ 130 bought at the Stockholm markets and does not hesitate to clean up the poop after her dog on a walk.
It is worth noting that such behavior is typical for many representatives of the royal houses of Europe and its financial and managerial elite. Wild kitsch is left to the nouveau riche.
4. Brian Burney
Bernie can be called a British construction oligarch.
Everything was going great for this millionaire until his wife was diagnosed with cancer. Then Bernie took up charity work.
He transferred a significant part of his fortune to the creation of a whole column of medical machines. These cars drove through small villages in northern England and provided high-tech medical care to the sick. Brian Burney paid the doctors' salaries out of his own pocket.
With God's help, his wife recovered. To celebrate, Brian Burney sold most of the property and gave the money to charity.
Now he lives on a small pension in a small apartment and drives a used car.
5. President of Uruguay
José Cordano is the president of Uruguay, but the locals call him El Pepe. He donates 9/10 of his presidential salary to charity, making him the poorest (or most generous) president in the world.
José earns 263,000 Uruguayan pesos (400,000 rubles) a month, leaving only 26,300 pesos (40,000 rubles) for himself.
He lives in a rural house on a farm, without debts and bank accounts. water for household Jose wears himself from a well in the yard. The biggest purchase of his life was a 1987 Volkswagen Beetle.
6. Boris Johnson
Boris is the mayor of London. He rides a bicycle to work, does not hesitate to go without a tie, freely wears a sports jacket, backpack and bicycle helmet.
The official is one of the main and most consistent supporters of the development of cycling in the UK and advocates healthy lifestyle life.
7. Olaf Ton
The Norwegian billionaire lives quite modestly. He is married but has no children. Therefore, he decided to donate all his wealth, calmly parting with $ 6,000,000,000: “I have a bicycle and skis, but I eat a little. So I think everything will be fine.”
Olaf Ton planned to spend all his money on financing medical research so that they would benefit people, saying: “I still can’t take them with me.”
Michael Bloomberg once served as mayor of New York (USA).
He is a very interesting person, even if you do not know that he has the 13th place in the list of the richest people in the world.
At the same time, the businessman does not stop riding the subway. And at his workplace he works in an ascetic environment: on ordinary office furniture, traditional monitors, papers, graphs, some trinkets and ... a can of peanut butter next to the keyboard.
9. Chuck Feeney
The founder of the famous Duty Free chain of stores, Chuck Feeney, lives very modestly.
Over the past 30 years, he has traveled the world, carefully getting rid of the accumulated capital of $ 7.5 billion. Feeney has spent his business income on charity.
His charitable foundation, The Atlantic Philanthropies, has invested $6.2 billion in education, science, health care and nursing homes around the world. By 2020, Chuck Feeney wants to spend all his capital on helping those in need.
10. Sergey Brin
Sergey is a legend in the computer business, co-founder and president of technology at Google Corporation.
Billionaire and one of America's richest men, Sergei lives modestly - lives in a three-room apartment in San Francisco and drives a used Toyota Prius with an environmentally friendly hybrid engine.
His hobby is visiting Katya's Russian Tea Room in San Francisco and recommending borscht, pancakes and dumplings to guests.
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For imitation, why should anyone imitate at all and does society need mass imitators? These questions have long been of concern to psychologists and sociologists who, in long-term observations of various strata of society and age categories, are trying to find an answer to them. Why do teenagers and children so insistently want to imitate someone, from harmless makeup sessions with mom's lipstick to tattoos on the whole body and outrageous behavior?
What is a role model
No wonder one of the commandments of God's law says: "Do not make yourself an idol." After all, a person who is under the impression of his idol can completely lose himself as a unique personality, becoming another cell of a faceless host. A synonym for role model is idolatry as the subject of blind addiction. For some, this craving is expressed in actions: copying actions or deeds, the individual believes that at some point he himself becomes identical to his deity, others, in an effort to become like an idol, imitate him in the style of clothing, hairstyle or manner of speaking, some go further and try engage in the same activities as the role model.
And only the most perspicacious copy not the external, but the internal qualities of their idol, cultivating the necessary character traits in themselves. Many Sting fans have taken up yoga as their idol, and Tobey Maguire fans have gone vegan following his example.
What or who do modern teenagers imitate
Unfortunately, most of the younger generation sets itself and others as an example to follow, sometimes insignificant aspects: the clothing style of idols, and not their spiritual world and actions that deserve respect, gestures and facial expressions, completely unaware of what is behind this. The thirst to own technological innovations covers everyone and everything, and the craving for self-affirmation due to the mass of hidden complexes often pushes them to unworthy acts.
Some statistics
A survey was conducted among young people about who they consider to be a role model for themselves, and examples were given as follows:
- 14% are parents or grandparents, sometimes a brother/sister.
- 70% of the votes were cast in favor of famous people: entertainers and cinematographers, public figures, sometimes even politicians.
- 6% claimed that they do not imitate anyone, preferring to be themselves.
Educate yourself, and children will take an example from you
The first role model that serves as an ideal for a small child is parents: up to five years old, children copy almost everything that comes from mom and dad. And, if dad says one thing, but at the same time does a completely opposite act, the child immediately fixes this and concludes that the words do not mean anything.
Thus, the first object, the word, loses weight. Its price is now negligible, and with every deed that goes against the words, it becomes less and less. By comparison, a four-year-old toddler and an 18-year-old will respond differently to a parent's broken promise, as they already have experiences that affect their feelings.
Pride of Humanity
Many names for modern schoolchildren and teenagers will probably say little, because golden youth are closer to one-day events like participants in "House-2" or "X-factor". But the names listed below are personalities about whom we can say with confidence: with a capital letter Man, an example to follow and an idol for true connoisseurs.
- Albert Einstein: a genius scientist, a failing student in school, who discovered the theory of relativity to the world.
- Stephen Hawking is another genius scientist who has been confined to a wheelchair for many years due to a severe form of paralysis of the whole body, but at the same time uses his mental capacity for the good of science.
- Chuck Feeney - few people know this name, but everyone knows Duty Free Shoppers. But Chuck is the founder of this network. He is a billionaire who spends all of his income supporting the elderly in nursing homes around the globe.
- Mikhail Lomonosov is an outstanding world-class Russian scientist who has gone from a simple peasant who cannot read to an honorary member of the Royal Academy of Sciences.
Sylvester Stallone: iconic actor of the 70s and 80s
Fearless Rimbaud, stubborn Rocky, incorruptible Judge Dredd - these film characters have been role models for children for more than forty years, in particular for boys and teenagers. The actor who played these roles from birth began to be tested by fate: during difficult births, when baby Sylvester was just starting to enter this world, obstetricians had to apply special tools to help the child be born.
Medical negligence led to an injury to the facial nerve: half of the face remained paralyzed for the entire later life. To the ridicule of classmates about his appearance and lisp, another trouble was added: when Stallone was nine years old, his parents divorced. The character of the guy began to deteriorate so quickly that at the age of 15 he had to be sent to a specialized military academy for problem children, and doctors have attached the diagnosis as a stigma: Attention Deficit Disorder.
Tired of the endless bullying of classmates, at the age of 16, Sylvester begins to spend whole days in the gym. Finally, they start to fear him and leave him alone. Unexpectedly for himself, the guy decides to become an actor: either to prove something to himself, or to everyone else. Long years he tried to break into the movie screens, moonlighting as a waiter in a penny cafe, a security guard in a restaurant, a hotel doorman, a fish carrier, an usher, and even a cage cleaner in a menagerie.
In 1975, Sly went to the fight of the legendary Mohammed Ali and after that he did not leave the room for four days: this is how the Rocky script about a die-hard boxer was born. The film was shot in a record one month and was nominated for ten Oscars, three of which it deservedly won. Sylvester Stallone literally woke up famous and remains so to this day, but at the same time he never forgets what he had to go through on the way to fame.
The Story of a Real Man
These are the words that will forever be associated with Alexei Maresyev, whose willpower and love of life is an ideal example worthy of emulation. Soviet pilot during the Great Patriotic War was shot down by an enemy fighter. His plane crashed, and Alexey himself, having received serious injuries, began to make his way to his troops. He spent 18 (!) days on the road, crawling, as he had frostbite on his legs, ate what he came across: cones, berries, and gnawed at the bark of trees. The legs had to be amputated due to gangrene. But Maresyev did not give up. After six months of intensive work on himself, he began to walk like ordinary people, only on prostheses. And six months later he was given permission to return to aviation again. Until the end of the war, he managed to shoot down another 11 fascist aircraft, and long post-war years to spend, working on the training of pilots, while simultaneously skiing and skating.
Nick Vujicic: A Parental Love Story
This young man knows the whole world: he is a symbol of victory strong spirit over a weak body, and his parents are an example to follow and a living instruction to everyone who wants to give birth to a child.
Dushka and Boris Vuychich, a simple nurse and pastor in a Protestant church, had no idea what kind of test God had in store for them. Their long-awaited child was born with the rarest pathology - tetraamelia: the baby had no arms or legs, but only a miserable likeness of the left foot. Boris, who was present at the birth, was the first to see his long-awaited child together with the doctors and realized that this was a test of his faith. The child was not shown to the mother for the first few days, but Dushka was tormented by inner feelings even during pregnancy, female intuition told her something was wrong. And when her husband explained the situation, her first reaction was: “For what?” But literally immediately she understood: “If God wants, so be it, who is she to challenge the decision of the divine will?” Moreover, the little squeaky lump did not yet suspect anything and demanded attention and parental warmth. Probably, this was the decisive factor. Despite the advice of doctors, the child was left and surrounded by care, raising him as an ordinary boy.
At each of his performances, Nick sincerely thanks his parents for their unearthly patience, boundless love and faith in his strength. And when Nick decided to commit suicide at the age of 10, it was the thought of his parents that stopped him: how can he betray their faith, how can he hurt them with his selfish act, because they suffered so much for him ?!
Nick Vujicic grew up, received two degrees in finance and realized at university that he was able to inspire people with handicapped to a daily victory over oneself, not to give up under any circumstances, taking every step of fate as a gift and an incentive for development, and not a punishment. Nick is successfully married, his wife is pregnant with their third child, this handsome man never leaves a smile showing the whole world that he is an example to follow.
Ernestine Shepard
This woman is now 81 years old, in 2010 she was recorded by the Guinness Book of Records as the oldest bodybuilder: her weight is only 59 kg with a height of 168 cm. Many will grunt: well, yes, she spent her whole life in the gym. Nothing like this. Ernestina began playing sports at the age of 56, when she critically examined herself in the mirror. She realized that the body is no longer the same as before. I started with simple aerobics and, when I felt a lack of exercise (this is at her age), I moved to gym and took up the iron.
Her daily routine is very tough: getting up at three in the morning begins with meditation, then there is a 16-kilometer run, and at eight in the morning she is already in the gym with a personal trainer. Ms. Shepard's daily diet is only 1700 calories and mainly consists of protein foods. Ernestina goes to bed early, at 10 pm, arguing that sleep until 12 am is the most beneficial.
Ernestine Shepard has won bodybuilding competitions twice and has run more than nine marathons in the last twenty years of her life. Her husband, Colleen, claims that she needs an eye for an eye, because a spectacular grandmother with a 15-year-old grandson is courted by many men. This woman is an excellent role model for all women who believe that there is no life after fifty. In fact, it is just getting started.
Not all idols are the same
It's one thing when a girl, inspired by a video by Kino McGregor or Laruga Glazer, enrolls in a yoga studio and begins to actively work on her self-improvement. Or a guy following the example of Bruce Lee decides to master the skill of kung fu and completely changes himself.
If the role model is shocking Sergei Zverev, his fan begins to copy the style of dress and behavior in society, not understanding what this is fraught with, and whether it is worth it.
Do society need idols
Idols, serving as role models and significantly influencing the fragile consciousness of adolescents - are they necessary?
Often, the media wittingly or unwittingly spurs society to worship someone or something: intrusive advertising, various shows about nothing, stimulating the youth's thirst for universal recognition, spreading information about who, how much and how. Who is responsible for the suicide of a teenager who decided to become like Cobain or Marilyn?
There are many examples in the world when a person holding a high position continues to lead a modest lifestyle and does not boast of his high position or financial position.
In the end, money and position in society are not the main thing in our life, and it seems that the people about whom the story will now be understood.
1. Just a princess of Sweden
This is Madeleine, Princess of Sweden. And yes, she cleans up after her dog. Herself.
2. The world's poorest president
José Cordano is the president of Uruguay, but the locals call him El Pepe. He donates nearly all of his presidential salary to charity, making him the poorest (or most generous) president in the world. Jose earns 263,000 Uruguayan pesos (400,000 rubles) per month. He leaves only 26,300 pesos (40,000 rubles) for himself.
Lives in a rural house on a farm. The president himself carries water for the household from a well in the yard. The biggest purchase of all time was a 1987 Volkswagen Beetle. Mujica has no bank accounts and no debts.
Señor Mujica is sitting in line at the clinic.
3. Mayor of London
Mr Boris Johnson, mayor of London, is not shy about going without a tie, freely wearing a sports jacket, backpack and bicycle helmet. Which is not surprising, because it is Boris Johnson who is one of the main supporters of the development of cycling in Britain.
4. Mayor of the City of Reykjavik
Jon Gnarr is the current mayor of the big city Iceland, Reykjavik. This man did not study at the university, was a comedian and a taxi driver, but in 2010 he managed to create his own political party and at the same time call it the ringing name "The Best Party". The party was predominantly creative personalities: artists, musicians, comedians - and none of them had ever been involved in politics before. Surprisingly, the residents of the city chose the leader of this party as mayor with a numerical indicator of 34.7% of the vote.
5. Former Mayor of New York
Michael Bloomberg is a very interesting person, even if you don't know that he has the 13th place in the list of the richest people in the world. At the same time, the ex-mayor of New York traveled by subway. In the photo, the mayor is sitting at his workplace in the city council building. On ordinary office furniture, traditional monitors, papers, graphics, some knick-knacks and ... a can of peanut butter next to the keyboard.
6 Hippie Billionaire Richard Branson
Sir Richard Branson is the founder of Virgin Airlines. For 10 years, he managed to turn a small music store into a giant diversified business scattered across all continents of the planet. But Branson, on top of everything else, is also a bright, non-standard personality, for which he received the nickname "hippie billionaire." The latest trick of a businessman is the appearance at the airport dressed as an AirAsia flight attendant. Moreover, Branson did not just show off in front of the cameras - he honestly served passengers on the Perth - Kuala Lumpur flight.
7. Google Legend
Sergey Brin is a computer business legend, co-founder and president of technology at Google Inc., a billionaire and one of the richest people in America. But despite all this, Sergey behaves quite modestly - he still lives in a three-room apartment and drives not a Mercedes, but a Toyota Prius with an environmentally friendly hybrid engine. He also likes to visit Katya's Russian Tea Room in San Francisco and recommend borscht, dumplings and pancakes to his guests.
8. Billionaire without a billion
Chuck Feeney is the creator of the famous Duty Free Shoppers chain. Over the past 30 years, he has traveled the world, pulling off a covert operation to get rid of capital of 7.5 billion dollars. He made it by trading cognac, perfume and cigarettes in his empire. His charitable foundation, The Atlantic Philanthropies, has invested $6.2 billion in education, science, health, advocacy civil rights and maintenance of nursing homes around the world. By 2020, Chuck Feeney wants to spend all his capital on helping those in need.
No one in childhood liked the phrase: “Look who you look like!”. When they show you a boy in clean stockings, who has fallen into the mud, you feel nothing but hatred for him. But as you grow older, it becomes clear: you need to have an example to follow. Still, a person who has collected bumps on his way will teach them to bypass.
Who becomes a role model
Lifetime role models are different people. The first example for children is their parents. Babies develop: they copy parental movements, words, facial expressions. Teenagers learn to rebel, so at their age, antiheroes often become idols. Adults have different priorities. Although everyone has their own ideas about, I want to imitate successful and accomplished people. Because role models know a common secret: how to do anything more efficiently than anyone else.
Role models are not as close as mentors. But these are individuals who want to imitate. They are often watched from the sidelines. These are people from another country, culture or era. Many study their habits and explore character traits. Idols are found in different areas life:
- Professional (sometimes they are called mentors);
- Spiritual (sometimes they are called mentors);
- Everyday.
The good news is that there can be any number of examples. But in order to succeed, admiration alone is not enough. Still need to work.
6 Techniques for Effective Imitation
It is nice to understand that the role model is not an unattainable idol, but a mortal person. And you can get closer to the idol with small steps. Here are some exercises from famous trainers and writers.
- The psychology of a winner. Actor and motivational coach Tony Robbins talks about copying success in The Self-Power Book: Imagine your idol. It can be a neighbor or a person with a worldwide reputation. Close your eyes and mentally ask them a question. These are your dreams, so you need to talk to your idol as if you have known each other for a long time. Think about what he can answer you, and write everything down on paper. The answers of the idol will help you choose the direction of movement.
Outcome 1. Talking to Rockefeller will not make you a dollar millionaire, but it will help you become a successful businessman.
- Conversation with the dead. Trainer personal growth Eric Bertrand Larssen in Now! shares a personal idea for the exercise: When I realize I'm wrong, I sit in a chair and introduce the people I want to consult. I talk to them and after that I write down the conversations on paper. You can ask imaginary interlocutors anything. How they succeeded and what they would have done differently. This allows you to remember the main thing and not be afraid of the future.
Outcome 2. A detached dialogue helps to look at your life from the outside.
- Super abilities. Motivational speaker Brian Tracy, in his book 21 Millionaire Success Secrets, says: People are amazed at the self-discipline of millionaires. In fact, these are just habits that give them superpowers. Do the exercise: identify the area of life where the lack of discipline brings the most damage. One decision you make can dramatically change your life.
Outcome 3. Feel like a superman. The world is full of undone feats.
- strange habits. Blogger Larisa Perfentyeva shares her observations in her book 100 Ways to Change Your Life: successful people there are habits that are contrary to "useful habits". However, they are useful. You need to allow yourself to be sad, to make mistakes, to be insecure. Psychologists recommend that you always finish what you started. Sometimes this rule is worth breaking. Otherwise, it is impossible to focus on the things you need. And sometimes it’s worth just saying: “yes, and figs with him” and rushing on.
Outcome 4. Even the most pleasant becomes boring. That's the way we are.
- Learn not to imitate, but to copy. Another tip from Tony Robbins: Learn to copy the physiology of successful people: breathing rate, voice intonation, gait, gestures. Then you can not just experience with the person. whom you admire, but also to think like the other thinks.
Outcome 5. Imitation is as much a skill as any other.
- Other people's goals are not your life. Motivational speaker Nick Vujicic, in his autobiography Life Without Limits, shares: Not everyone successful person worth making your idol. One must not compromise one's own principles, no matter how brightly the cherished goal shines. Think about what your children and grandchildren will say about you.
Outcome 6. Every dream has its own unique path. Sometimes more than a thousand achievements.
Why are they
Sometimes you look at the idol of millions and think: what is so attractive about this person? Small stature, plain appearance or a quiet voice - role models sometimes have an unpresentable appearance. They are conquered by charisma, admired by willpower, and faith in their own strengths leads them.
What else attracts us to a role model?
- They don't fit into general framework. Remember the situation when a thing in a store does not suit anyone: either the sleeves are short, or the neckline is out of place. Clothes are sewn for standard people, but most simply do not fit the average parameters. The norm is fiction. Idols live by the principle “it is necessary to adjust not the person to the system, but the system to the person.”
- They are proud of their otherness. People love to read about the brave and brave. In our youth, we read books about travelers to holes. Today we read about brave women. The body positivity movement began in 1996. Why is it so popular? Because for the first time not glossy beauties, but ordinary women became an example to follow. They managed to step over their shortcomings and become an example to follow. Now thousands of people with far from ideal appearance will be able to feel confident. “A person is beautiful as he is” - the motto of the body positivity movement is applicable to any area of \u200b\u200blife.
- They tell their story of failure. Scientist Thomas Edison failed 10,000 experiments that ended in failure. And only after that he invented the incandescent light bulb. Writer J. K. Rowling published letters of rejection from publishers. She showed that failure makes you free, because the biggest fears have already come true. Stories of failure are more popular today than stories of victory. "Genius is 99% sweat and 1% talent" - Thomas Edison's saying inspires people today.
Your personal success is your own business. No person in the world will tell you how to reach the top. Do you know why? Success must be discovered within yourself. Set a goal and go towards it. And on the way to be equal to the one who has already achieved this goal.
“Learn from everyone, do not imitate anyone,” Maxim Gorky wrote, and he was right. Constant admiration for a role model gives only the illusion of success. Close people love us just like that. Get back into your comfort zone from time to time. The world does not need to be conquered, it just needs to be made better.